The newlywed Duke and Duchess of Cambridge had quite the wedding party to celebrate their marriage vows. I think it’s wonderful. If a girl marrying a prince can’t have a spectacular wedding and supremely gorgeous dress, who can?
But my heart’s just not into the excitement of it all. One of the greatest gifts God gave us is marriage, and the public declaration of a life-long commitment to another person is precious, glorious, and terrifying. It’s why chicks cry at weddings. It’s emotional, man!
It makes me sad that so many people no longer value the sanctity of marriage. That love has become a squishy, tender feeling, rather than a verb. People don’t fall out of love; they fall out of lust, infatuation, or like. And then they throw the baby out with the bathwater.
Marriage is hard. Sometimes it sucks. Tough. Deal with it. When you set out on a journey with another person, you hold that person’s hand through storms and sunny afternoons alike. Hopefully your days will be mostly sunny with a small storm here or there, but there are no guarantees in life.
Marriage vows do not ask us to have and hold each other until death do us part, or until life gets crappy, whichever comes first.
Marriage is commitment, not an excuse for a party. No Brad Pitt, you and Jennifer Aniston did not have a successful marriage, and you saying so doesn’t show maturity or emotional evolution, or whatever anyone wants to call it. It mocks and belittles marriage, and shows a blatant disregard of your own commitments.
The deprecation of marriage by celebrities (royalty included) makes it impossible for me to get super excited about Will and Kate. I wish nothing but the best for the newlyweds, and hope that through the years they will prove my cynicism wrong. I hope they will be each other’s best friend and truly love one another, and not become another couple that disparages their vows with secrets, lies, cruelty, affairs, and eventual divorce.
Now please excuse me while I go kiss my husband and remind him that I love him.