Let me preface this: Potty training toddlers sucks. I’ve heard from more seasoned parents than myself that it’s the hardest thing you’ll teach your kid to do until they start learning to drive.
It was so traumatic training Thing 1 that I’m in no hurry to train Thing 2, even though her third birthday is rapidly approaching. At this rate, she’s going to have to beg to use the toilet.
“Please, Mommy! I’m starting kindergarten next week! I want to wipe my own hiney!”
Don’t judge me. Karma’s a bitch.
Anyway, since Thing 2 is not potty trained, she’s not enrolled in a preschool that requires her to use the restroom by herself. See how that works? Caring for trained vs. untrained little kids requires a completely different set-up at care facilities. Some take kids in diapers; others require the kids stay clean and dry on their own.
I snickered last night when I saw this headline: Three-year-old suspended from Arlington preschool for too many potty accidents.
This is news?
According to the Washington Post article:
Zoe Rosso, who is 3 years old, likes to bake brownies with her mom, go to tumbling class and make up elaborate worlds with tiny plastic animals and dolls. Like many children her age, she sometimes has difficulty making it to the toilet on time.
That’s why she was suspended from her preschool. For a month.
Arlington Public Schools’ Montessori preschool at Claremont Elementary “removed” Zoe in December, asking her parents not to bring her back to school for a month, or until the child learned not to have any more “accidents.”
The principal escorted Zoe and her mother, Betsy Rosenblatt Rosso, from the building on Dec. 3. “The principal told me that Zoe had had enough chances,” Rosso said. “That seemed absurd to me. It came as a total shock.”
What is absurd? The preschool had a rule about being potty trained. The kid wasn’t potty trained. Buh-bye! See you when you can keep your shorts clean!
The article inevitably gets into the Potty Wars, which revolves around the question of when to potty train your kid. One ‘expert’ says it’s ridiculous to require small children to use the toilet, and that it should not be used as a basis for discrimination.
Elizabeth Page, an early-childhood specialist and executive director of the Falls Church-McLean Children’s Center, called the county’s removal policy “ridiculous.”
“Potty training is very, very individual, just like learning to walk and learning to read,” she said. “You can try to force a child to be potty-trained, but it’s like asking a pig to fly. It frustrates you and irritates the pig.”
Learning any new thing is difficult. Duh. And not everyone is going to learn something at the same age as someone else. Thank goodness we live in America, where there are options. If this kid isn’t ready to potty train, her mom needs to find her a preschool that accepts kids in diapers.
This will probably be the same mom that demands her daughter be passed from grade to grade without being able to read, because she’s just not ‘developmentally ready’ yet to learn how.